Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Hate the Sin...

It's impossible to "hate the sin and love the sinner."

At least that's what I've been told. Repeatedly.

Let's be honest: Not everyone who hates the sin loves the sinner. And sometimes the love is buried very, very deep.

But it's not impossible. Everybody does it all the time. Especially parents.

Yes, the best example of hating the sin and loving the sinner is child rearing. We hate certain behaviors. We want better than that from our children because we want better than that for our children. Parents ground, spank, and occasionally even kick out their children because they love them, because their deepest fear is that the child will not become the man or woman they could be.

And we can oppose — even strongly oppose — behavior in other people because we want better than that for them.

Of course, one reason people don't believe in this is that too often we only appear to hate sexual sins. Sexual sin in destructive to the sinner. So are gluttony, greed, pride, and gossip. If we love our friends and family, we won't turn a blind eye to those sins either.


Anonymous said...

People used to think it was necessary to "spank" adult members of the community, military trainees, and prisoners. In some countries they still do. In our country, it is considered sexual battery if a person over the age of 18 is "spanked", but only if over the age of 18.

For one thing, because the buttocks are so close to the genitals and so multiply linked to sexual nerve centers, striking them can trigger powerful and involuntary sexual stimulus in some people. There are numerous physiological ways in which it can be sexually abusive, but I won't list them all here. One can use the resources I've posted if they want to learn more.

Child buttock-battering vs. DISCIPLINE:

Child buttock-battering (euphemistically labeled "spanking","swatting","switching","smacking", "paddling",or other cute-sounding names) for the purpose of gaining compliance is nothing more than an inherited bad habit.

Its a good idea for people to take a look at what they are doing, and learn how to DISCIPLINE instead of hit.

I think the reason why television shows like "Supernanny" and "Dr. Phil" are so popular is because that is precisely what many (not all) people are trying to do.

There are several reasons why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea. Here are some good, quick reads recommended by professionals:

Plain Talk About Spanking
by Jordan Riak,

The Sexual Dangers of Spanking Children
by Tom Johnson,

by Lesli Taylor M.D. and Adah Maurer Ph.D.

Most compelling of all reasons to abandon this worst of all bad habits is the fact that buttock-battering can be unintentional sexual abuse for some children. There is an abundance of educational resources, testimony, documentation, etc available on the subject that can easily be found by doing a little research with the recommended reads-visit the website of Parents and Teachers Against Violence In Education at www.nospank.net.

Just a handful of those helping to raise awareness of why child bottom-slapping isn't a good idea:

American Academy of Pediatrics,
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry,
American Psychological Association,
Center For Effective Discipline,
Churches' Network For Non-Violence,
Nobel Peace Prize recipient Archbishop Desmond Tutu,
Parenting In Jesus' Footsteps,
Global Initiative To End All Corporal Punishment of Children,
United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child.

In 26 countries, child corporal punishment is prohibited by law (with more in process). In fact, the US was the only UN member that did not ratify the Convention on the Rights of the Child.

ChrisB said...

Wow. Kind of beside the point, don't you think?